We welcome you to our blog where Anton Daniels will personally share the story of his successful married life. So, let’s listen to his words.
Anton daniels said in his YouTube podcast that marriage is a journey for my wife and me; it has been quite amazing. After more than sixteen years, approaching seventeen, our marriage is based on strong foundations. In a society where long-term marriages seem increasingly rare, I want to share how we have stayed together and why divorce is not a choice for us.
Our Beginnings
We reconnected in high school when I was perhaps fourteen or fifteen years old. I knew she was going to be my wife from the outset. Fascinatingly, I first had no desire in dating her. I told her very early on that I thought she would be my wife, seeing her differently from other women. Although it’s strange to consider now, almost forty years old, I was deliberate in tending to our relationship from the beginning.
Reconnecting After High School
We lost contact after high school and went our different ways. But a chance phone call pulled us back together. She was the one I wanted to marry, once we got back in touch. Six months later we became engaged and then married. From both sides, everything was quite deliberate; we agreed on the course our lives should follow.
Building a Life Together
We started merging into each other’s families and life once we became involved. Our relationship developed on hard effort, family values, and spirituality. About having children, we agreed on everything except finally deciding to have one child so we could concentrate all on that one child. Our concern about raising a child into a world that seemed to be deviating from our values and principles drove this choice.
Facing Financial Challenges
The recession presented our relationship with its first major test. When we got back in touch, I was doing quite nicely financially; but, the recession hit hard. Though it was only temporary, losing my job was a challenging change. Our relationship survived the financial pressure since it was based on friendship and spirituality.
- Lost job during the recession
- Financial strain
- Strong foundation in friendship
The Birth of Our Daughter
For me, our daughter’s birth marked a sea change. It gave me more will to support my family and be the best husband and father I could be. Notwithstanding the financial difficulties, I was determined to equip my daughter and wife to be in the best possible position. Being best friends and with a strong spiritual basis helped our relationship to keep flourishing.
The Restaurant Challenge
The build-out and opening of our restaurant marked the most difficult period in our marriage. Personal tragedies including the death of my father and some of her relatives compounded this time. We were totally detached from reality, grieving our losses and concentrating just on the business. Though it was a stormy period, our relationship survived.
- Restaurant build-out and opening
- Personal losses
- Complete disconnection
Overcoming Challenges Together
Notwithstanding the difficulties, our relationship has been basically favourable. Our great basis in friendship and spirituality has helped us to negotiate trying circumstances. We have little arguments and no major problems. For the most of our relationship, it has been happy; we keep developing together.
The Role of Support
Particularly in trying circumstances, my wife has been absolutely vital in my life. She took on full-time responsibilities to relieve me while I ran a restaurant and juggled several jobs. She postponed her dreams to help me so that we might grow and scale our businesses. Her encouragement has been priceless on our path forward.
The Importance of Being Best Friends
Our relationship started with us being best friends first and still is based on that. Our marriage has been robust because of this friendship as well as our spirituality. We have little arguments and no major problems. For the most of our relationship, it has been happy; we keep developing together.
Advice for Finding the Right Partner
Finding the ideal mate calls for knowing what it means to be equally yoked. It’s about discovering someone who shares your values and principles, not only about appearances or surface traits. Men especially have to be on their game and deliberate about their relationships. Women shouldn’t hesitate to date their best friend.
Commitment and Endurance
Our options are not divorce. Whether better or worse, richer or poorer, we take our vows very seriously. There is nothing we cannot overcome; the great majority of our relationship has been good. Before God, I offered my word; I am dedicated to making our marriage successful.
Conclusion
Married life is a journey; it improves with time. It turns into a stage for both partners to develop and reach their best selves. You have to come to the table whole yourself; your partner cannot make you whole. Look for someone that shares your values and ideals; then, create a friendship and spiritual relationship. Divorce is not in our vocabulary, thus if you are dedicated to making your marriage last, it should not be in yours either.
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